Francesco (Clemente)

Francesco (Clemente)

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Thursday, October 21, 2010

Schizoid and Communication

As I once mentioned, Russian and Western scholars' words about schizoid personalities differ in some aspects. After all, the universe is allowed to have its profound mysteries (schizoids)... I'm sure one day I'll  find out from a more professional point of view.

Schizoid-and-communication issue from a Russianly scientific viewpoint:

1. Some schizoids don't have the skill of being initiative in a conversation, they quickly become exhausted during contact. Sudden silence may cause paralysing effect and is rarely followed by anything  verbal for this anything  (even though prepared carefully by a schizoid) can sound awkward and not to the point.

2. Schizoids do not let most people in and are often suspicious towards them, even though in some cases suspicions are groundless. When someone starts a conversation, the schizoid can make a face showing they are not in the mood, some are good at avoiding intrusion (uncomfortable questions or conversations) by changing subject, confusing the curious or joking the matter off.

3. It is uneasy for some schizoids to relax in the process of communication because they are being 'read' by others. Ingenuousness of communication is something which is often unreachable for schizoids, that's why they sometimes prefer communicating through a thin glass of verbal playfulness or abstractness. 

4. If a schizoid, realizing this communicative inadequacy, tries hard to be natural, it only adds more stiffness to the issue. As a result, some schizoids can choose not to be themselves which is wrong. The best here is learning and practicing formalities that function where schizoids have to communicate more actively than usual. If these formalities are mastered, schizoid's real self will stay safely hidden while their occasional reticence can be interpreted as profundity and depth of thought.

"There's everything in the schizoid - coldness and passion (and idea), stubborness and (hmm) obedience, indifference and passionate endurance, brilliance and eccentricity - all of this is painted with subtle colours of striving for harmony that exists in the soul of a person with schizoid personality". I haven't found anything similar written about schizoids in Western scientific sources.

There can be musinderstandings that occur during  (indirect) communication with the schizoid which sometimes cause paranoid reactions on both sides. There can be bad feelings (accompanied with confusing 'black magic' words and manipulative moments) indirected at you too...

On the other hand, communicating with certain unique schizoids (sometimes indirectly) introduces you to the kind of  music you have never heard before.

Sunday, October 03, 2010

... of Heart

Right after I had watched Garden State yesterday the TV started showing Al Bano who sang Perché  (and other songs) with sensual Russian huge-titted singeresses. Strange because it was one of the random radio songs I had to drive to the seacoast to in July-almost August. In any case, this singer is especially appreciated in post Sovietic locations because tons of post Soviet people still remember how they used to become all sentimental to his songs.

I was recommended to watch Garden State by one guy I know from the times when I asked people questions about schizoid personality. He told me the movie is about a schizoid who falls in love - so of course I had to watch it as soon as I could. I do not know if 'Large' is schizoid or not because recently I read about Summer  from  500 Days of Summer who (according to some sources) is a monster with borderline personality disorder... ("I hate you, don't leave me"). In any case,  from what I've watched I can say it is quite possible that Andrew is somewhat schizoid.

Below are just a few scenes I liked

Non-Garden State of Mind

"If you can't laugh at yourself, life's gonna seem a whole lot longer than you'd like". I do something similar, but usually Seal it with 'pussy!!!' in Russian

Did something similar on the beach

... deserves a quiet night

- I'm not innocent! - Yes, you are! All right? And that's what I like about you!

- Tissue? How are you feelin'? - Safe.

Михей и Джуманджи "Так чисто" перевод

Наступят дни когда-нибудь, когда не будет больно,

Былое, незабытое оставит моё тело.

Я не могу больше вспоминать о тебе,

Я знаю, я вру сам себе,

И время не залечит мои раны,

Пойдём со мной, прошу.

Давай уйдём туда, где светит солнце,

Там нет мирских сует и вожделений,

Туда, где сердце бьётся часто,

И зависти там места нет,

Нет искушений, зла, лукавства.

Я люблю тебя, так чисто.

По-разному трактуют все любовь, но не понятно,

Она ведь не приходит каждый день, и я грешен,

О Бог мой, для чего ты наделил меня ей, и я страдаю веками,

И сладкие оковы, эти сети я срываю.

Давай уйдём туда где светит солнце,

Там нет мирских сует и вожделений,

Туда, где сердце бьётся часто,

И зависти там места нет,

Нет искушений, зла, лукавства.

Я люблю тебя, так чисто.